Anonymous asked: I met my boyfriend on the app hot or not app. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me and he says the most cutest and sweetest things to me, we FaceTime for over 5 hours like all the time and he will call me just to tell me he loves me, except he lives on the other side of the country literally and I'm flying over there to meet him for first time in April, what if he is completely different in person?:/ x
I think that’s something that every long distance couple thinks about whether it’s your significant other or yourself. I don’t think that you really have to worry too much especially if you guys facetime for that long haha. I would just enjoy getting to see him. Be yourself and it’ll all work out. Don’t worry about it too much :)
Anonymous asked: heeya! ive been with my ldr for 2 years now but he teaches ball room dance with his ex (idk what she is, he told me they had feelings for each other) he teaches for many many years now, they see each other very oftenly and he gets to hold her close. Lately i cant help myself to be jealous about it, he told me he loves me and that im the one and perfect foe him but i cant help feeling insecure. every time i mention it he gets angry of my insecurities, what shall i do? xxxx
To be honest, he should not be getting angry if you’re getting insecure. I think you have every right to be jealous/insecure especially if they had feelings for each other. Because the vibe i’m getting from him, is that he might still have feelings for her even if it’s just a little bit and I don’t think I would feel any better considering they’re around each other all the time. I mean, I could be totally wrong but i’ve been in a situation where an ex was around my boyfriend and even if he doesn’t have feelings, you still get insecure because you never know if that other person still likes your man and whether they might try something.
Try talking to him about it and if he gets angry, do what I told the other anon. Let him see it from your point of view. I don’t think he would like it if you were always around your ex and also working with them so intimately. Because dancing is definitely intimate.
Anonymous asked: Also he's literally texted me at the end of the night like "you didn't text me at all today?" I don't think it should be my responsibility. I'm either pissed off or heartbroken lately because of all of this. Again help would be appreciated I have no idea what to do.
As far as the texting goes, it’s a two way street. You both have to compromise with each other. No offense to guys, but some don’t get it lol. Just be upfront with him. Like be all, “I love/miss when you would text me first or when you send me good morning/goodnight texts” lol. I don’t think it’s fair that you have to always initiate a conversation so tell him how you’re feeling
Anonymous asked: My boyfriend and I don't have a lot of free time to FaceTime anymore so we've just been texting more. But he is literally the worst at texting. He never asks me any questions or attempts to carry out a conversation. I feel like he's selfish and likes to talk about himself a lot. Not to mention he'll send me pictures when he's hanging out with other girls. I don't think he knows it makes me jealous and he says they are all just friends. What should I do?
Wait, hold up. You guys don’t have time to facetime anymore, but he has time to hang out with other girls and take pics with them? Ohh no, that is not okay! If you ever feel jealous or even uncomfortable with him doing that, then just tell him. Like he might suspect it but won’t think anything of it because you don’t say it bothers you. Or like, he’ll assume that you’re cool with it. You don’t have to say you’re jealous, just say that you don’t feel comfortable with him hanging out with girls like that and that if the roles were reversed, he’d probably feel the same way.
Also, that’s not cool that he hangs out with other girls when you guys rarely facetime with each other. Like he should be spending time with you. Tell him you’d like to do that more and that you miss him, ect…
Anonymous asked: I met this guy in a summer program that only allows me to stay in the same place for 3 months. We've a great relationship but we know I'm gonna have to leave in 4 weeks. We have talked about it and he said that he can't handle long distance relationships and that if we stay together he would only talk to me through facebook once a month. It's pretty clear that we wont see each other again after this, but he keeps giving me mixed signals (meeting his parents) that make me think this is serious?
Maybe he’s just scared. I’m assuming he’s never been in a long distance relationship before so I can understand. But why can you guys only talk through facebook once a month?
I would just talk to him about it. If he’s talking about you meeting his parents, that’s a pretty serious step. I would try to tell him that you’re serious about the relationship and you have strong feelings for him and that if he’s willing to try, you should definitely go for a long distance relationship. You would both just need to make the effort :)
Anonymous asked: ok me and my boyfriend and yet we dont have the money to see eachother and its something we both really want to be with eachother so badly to hold eachother we are always honest with eachother but we have wanted to always be in eachothers arms we just want eachother so what should i do ?
Facetime and talk on the phone for now and save money for the meantime. Maybe both of you should set a goal of how much you should save and when you’re planning on meeting each other. Definitely start looking up prices so you have an idea of how much, if you haven’t looked already. That’s really the best part because you at least have a date in mind and it makes it seem like you’re a step closer to seeing each other :)